I received this text from a man I met for coffee…once. He knew I was fresh out of a serious long term relationship. I texted with him for the next week or so but then for various reasons I was unable to respond to his advances for a few days.

Clearly, I deserved this…But this is not a post about women’s rights or abusive behaviour…this is a post about believing in yourself, finding your strength, discovering your happiness, and staying healthy through all of it…Plus, OMG WTAF!???!!! Seriously, dude? But let’s talk about that later.

Breaking up is hard…

And it hurts. OMG it hurts. And not in a good way like you discover muscles you didn’t know you had after leg day at the gym or when you’re BFF tells you the truth about the spinach that’s been in your teeth all day.

Clearly I am not a relationship expert but one thing I can to do is stay fit during the lemon throwing lessons of life. I’m good at that. Let’s chat…

Is this you?…

You sob ugly, heaving, chest puking, gut wrenching, gulping  snot filled air and choking on it, tears while curled up on the kitchen floor with a bucket of ice-cream because you were fine until you decided to eat, despite feeling nauseas, and you saw a little xo note he’d left months ago stuck to the fridge.

Do this… 

All of the above. Let the low moments happen. But promise me …

  • You’ll keep limited supplies of comfort food crap in the house. Yes, you might be willing to go to the store with your puffy eyes and ‘haven’t showered hair’ to buy more but you’ll have to think twice about. That might be all you need. (your body doesn’t need this stuff but your soul might so keep a little bit handy)
  • You’ll keep healthier crap available… honestly your body needs nutrients (which is where the healthy crap comes in) When you can, make a batch of this and keep it ready. Bonus points if you invite a girlfriend over to help you make the stuff.
  • When the crying stops, (and it will), get up slowly, you’ll stick a pencil in your teeth for  30 seconds, then make a list of all the reasons you rock.

Is this you?…

You hide from the world, cancel appointments, call in sick to work, tell your friends you’re too tired to go out, watch movies that will make you cry, pile laundry on the other side of the bed ’cause no-one is sleeping there anyway and you can’t be bothered to put it away, avoid going to bed because waiting behind your eyelids is a replay of everything you miss, avoid getting up because you’re already exhausted and you’ve got a whole day of hollowness to fill with distractions you don’t really care about…

Do this…

Take your time. Nothing you read, watch or hear or do will change anything, but promise me…

  • You’ll check in with someone at least once a day. If you’re lucky enough to have friends that will listen then lean on them. You are a strong woman, but just like muscles need a rest day, you can take a break from being strong sometimes.
  • You’ll get outside once a day. Bonus points if you go for a walk. If it’s nice outside try some stretching. If it’s not, try some yoga inside. Drag yourself to a class if the mood strikes but be aware hip opening poses can release emotions...
  • When you start to feel better, (and you will), you’ll set a new personal best. This is easy…do something you’ve never done before and it’s instantly a personal best.

Is this you?…

You’re going to make that no good, doesn’t deserve you, crazy guy/gal regret the day you broke up by crafting the best gotta have dat ass buns in town and losing every spec of fat with the first magic pill diet you find ’cause this shit has to happen fast!

Do this…

Get healthy 🙂 Hell ya!!!!! But do it right…and do it for you!!!!!!!! OMG right now, STOP STOP STOP thinking about him or her. YOU YOU YOU…what do YOU need? Promise me …

  • You’ll block your ex on FB. Deleting…I know the idea is too permanent so just block… then their face doesn’t show up in your feed and sucker punch your day. You can’t torture yourself with their newsfeed and most importantly, you can’t post things with the intention of them seeing and suddenly realizing how wonderful you are. You are kickass, btw, but this is about YOU, not them.
  • You’ll use the desire to improve yourself as fuel…big goals need big emotion… but instead of going full out and crashing, list all the healthy things you want in your life. Instead of jumping into ‘set yourself up for failure’ diets or programs, set realistic goals, work out how you will make these things happen, be honest about your obstacles and make a plan. 
  • When you feel your motivation dwindling (and you will), you’ll tell me your WHY. Is it still about making them regret? Or can you think of reasons you want to be stronger…leaner..healthier? What will being those things mean for YOU? Seriously…I want to know. Comment, tweet, email…tell me.

PS – Some people you should run away from

…far, far away as fast as you can … think of it as cardio!

Do you have a monkey on your shoulder that tells you you’re not good enough no matter how well you do? K, well, congrats, you’re human.

Still thinking about the text I shared from venom man? Wondering if the person who sent that is human? Ya, me too! When you read it, were you outraged? Were you shocked? Did you think I deserved that?

I’m guessing no…But my monkey believed those words. I spent two years living with that kind of verbal sewage and after a while it gets in.

My monkey screamed ‘you’ll never be good enough’. So I did scenario one and two…and then I did burpees :)…’cause the monkey lies.

How does your monkey speak to you? If you wrote it out would it shock you? Outrage you? Do you deserve it?

I have a saying when I’m training people…listen to your body; it tells the truth. Ignore your brain; your brain lies.

Here’s the thing…there is always a thing…a break up, a sad past, a hater… follow what your body tells you is working; ignore the monkey.

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Kat
Kat